Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Things No Parent Wants to Do

Jonathan's birthday is approaching and mine will follow. We were talking about what we want for our birthday the other day. We both want the same thing but don't really want it either. We want to order Grant's headstone. I also want an urn for his ashes. We decided to have Grant cremated. We spread some of his ashes at a beautiful beach and we have some so that we can always have him with us. We are choosing to place a headstone at my grandfather's grave. I want a permanent place for him, a place we can go to. This may not make sense to others, but I don't really care, it is what we want for Grant. We are looking at grave markers. We know what we want, just don't know how to go about to get it done. I've also been looking at urns online. I haven't found one that is just right yet and I want it to be perfect too. No parent wants to pick out these things for their child, and they definitely don't want to say it is what they want for their birthday. However, we want to do this because it is for our son, our beautiful little boy and we want to honor him.


  1. Thinking about you so much, Kristy!!

  2. I completely understand! You have to do what's right for you and only you! The sad thing is that we rarely know what is the right thing to do. We don't plan for our children to die before us and so it's very hard to navigate and plan for all the step and lists of things to "do". I only had a vague notion of what kind of urn I wanted for Caroline. Thankfully it turned out just perfect for her and us. Take your time looking for what will be perfect for the 3 of you! There is no timeline for when anything has to be done by!

    Lots of love to you today!

  3. I am so very sorry that this is what you have to "want"uuuugggg. I got Jonathan's urn and necklace from here They were great when my necklace had the tininess scratch in it the same day rushed me another one. I just got looked at my Amazon account and realized the book I sent you never got sent (big sigh). Re sending it today! Praying for you my friend.