tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612988462787289693.post3949004664866710379..comments2023-06-04T06:55:15.014-05:00Comments on The Bybee Blog: Things I Don't Want To HearKristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17034455627991686507noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612988462787289693.post-25101603827488570762012-06-25T09:57:17.997-05:002012-06-25T09:57:17.997-05:00Found your blog from Teeny Tears (nice hat tutoria...Found your blog from Teeny Tears (nice hat tutorial, by the way). Amen to every single thing you posted here! Very well said.Nurse Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05701919857269926765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612988462787289693.post-61440589850776683182012-05-22T09:22:23.458-05:002012-05-22T09:22:23.458-05:00Kristy, your post is so very right. All of the th...Kristy, your post is so very right. All of the things you have listed not to say to parents who have lost a child, people say, quite often. My own husband told me that we could just have another baby... like our son Jacob who was born still at 23.5 wks, could just be replaced. It is very offensive. I'm sorry anyone would say such things to you. Hope your Tuesday is good. :)Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09500819457460584740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612988462787289693.post-24667243368305935922012-05-15T00:42:44.256-05:002012-05-15T00:42:44.256-05:00Everything you wrote was so perfect. A friend once...Everything you wrote was so perfect. A friend once said that she would never have made the decision we made and I could only respond with, "And I seriously pray you never have to be told that your baby's condition is incompatible with life and HAVE to make a decision." I mean, really? Hugs!!!The Howard Bunchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11198495770253250318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612988462787289693.post-70113052030111932002012-05-14T20:57:46.479-05:002012-05-14T20:57:46.479-05:00Such a beautiful post... and so true. I agree wit...Such a beautiful post... and so true. I agree with each of your comments about unhelpful comments... and your gorgeous helpful comments. So so true. Love to you always xoxoDandelionBreezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06988561541523178095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612988462787289693.post-45799889055326978512012-05-14T11:49:18.744-05:002012-05-14T11:49:18.744-05:00Okay, I'm going to paraphrase because it serio...Okay, I'm going to paraphrase because it seriously took me 10 minutes to type!<br /><br />1) I had a ton of people tell me when we were trying for Ava "just have a drink and relax". When I didn't make enough milk for either of my children (they were failing to thrive...I was nursing ALL THE TIME...I tried absolutely everything)..someone seriously said "you just don't want it enough." <br /><br />2) We attended a small church where people are generally placed on the prayer list for anything-even a cold. Our son died...nothing. NO ONE came, NO ONE placed us on the prayer list, NO ONE acknowledged ANY of it. The minister called one time and left a message...like I was in a state to call back if I needed something...who would be? It was as though my child didn't exist because he wasn't born alive. You better believe we've left that church.<br /><br />3) People complaining about their pregnancies are driving me insane. I try to tell myself that I'd be saying the same things, but seriously....just don't say it to ME. Get this, a "friend" was due the exact same week as me...and is naming her son "Ryan" because she liked the name. Seriously. She is "counting down to Ryan's due date" on facebook. You better believe I have hidden her.<br /><br />4) Complaining about children. I know all mothers complain about their children from time to time- especially when we are tired/weary. Even before my loss, I always tried to follow up my "complaints" with some "thanks". <br /><br />Great Post!Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10173680327801417618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612988462787289693.post-1709882799370876182012-05-14T11:44:01.964-05:002012-05-14T11:44:01.964-05:00I just left you a massive comment and it didn'...I just left you a massive comment and it didn't save, boooo! Haha, going to try again...Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10173680327801417618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1612988462787289693.post-91075300765406827502012-05-14T10:39:29.759-05:002012-05-14T10:39:29.759-05:00Kristy this post is sooooo good I am going to link...Kristy this post is sooooo good I am going to link to it this week. I have to say when I wrote my post yesterday I thought of you. At times I get mad at myself and think people that struggle with infertility must have a hard time with mw. Because I am "Blessed" but hurting. I know you understand and I am grateful. You did such a good job in the post of covering everything. I am so thankful for the part about infertility. My BF struggled to get pregnant for 5 years and I was so lost and did not know what to say. I am thankful for your wisdom! It is so important to educate people, I know in my ignorance that I hurt many. I am so blessed to read this thank you for taking the time to write it WELL! Hugs my friend saying a prayer for you now :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14497636907002853665noreply@blogger.com